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I have been an avid reader of Paulo Coelho’s blog and his work. He has been an idol, a mentor and an inspiration to me. Since I came across with his writing, I just can’t get enough of it. A daily dosage of his wisdom inspires me everyday. In fact, I make sure to read his tweets everyday.
Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature.
I’d like to share this blog post from Paulo Coelho blog site. Paulo Coelho took a straw poll among his blog readers regarding a few issues about love and relationships.
Marriage is sacred and eternal. The union is more than a promise uttered from someone’s mouth. It is a solemn vow written in stone when two people say “I Do”. To some who might have forgotten the promise in a little while, it is good to remind yourself of your promise. We may get lost on our journey but we still can reach the destination if we truly want to. To stay in track, consider how other people think about the situation. People’s perspective towards a situation can be a great learning and weighing point.
Here are their opinions on marriage:
Stella: I am condemned to love you, and that is my salvation. I shall have to live for ever in the shadow of your eyes, accept the fact that everything your hand touches arouses the best in me. All that I know is your love, nothing else interests me.
Prajakta: Two people join together, love provokes more love. Two imperfect beings unite, and perfection becomes possible.
Dasha: The ceremony of marriage is just a symbol, and we could live very well without all the pressures that it implies. Love is free and wild, and the more we feel this state of freedom, the more aware we are of the joy that it means to live with another person we have chosen, rather than with someone that society has obliged us to be with.
Leila: In my religion (Islamism), marriage amounts to many ways of worshipping God. I cannot understand religions that preach celibacy and asceticism, which severs human beings from their natural condition.
Nadia: I need love. I need someone to tell me that he is in love with me, and that’s all. I have no need for a white dress and a church blessing, but I seem to be the only one among my friends to think this way. They are all afraid of loneliness; if I don’t find someone who understands me deeply, what’s wrong about being alone? But the pressure is so great that I think that I am gong to have to accept it sooner or later, or else my self-esteem will be seriously damaged.
Liz: I’m going to get married in two weeks, and I’ve been talking compulsively about it. What conclusion have I reached? With or without a formal ceremony, a couple will always be what they can be. The only thing that changes is that we will have to disguise our fighting with one another.
Neel P.: I believe that a couple that puts God at the center of their lives will also know where to put marriage where it belongs. Being with another person doesn’t mean making a god of them; this should be seen as part of the divine blessings that affect our lives every day – like love, sex, music, solitude, and even suffering. Marriage is by no means destiny, but rather part of our path, and I am sure that God uses this union for a reason that goes far beyond perpetuating the species.
A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partner’s security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.
Credits: Paulo Coelho Blog Site